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For a long time, I treated rest as something earned — a reward after effort, a pause justified by exhaustion . Even then, it was often restless . My body might have slowed down, but my mind kept working. Over time, I’ve come to see rest differently. Not as absence, but as a practice. Rest requires attention. It asks for discernment — noticing when the body is asking for stillness rather than endurance . It challenges the idea that productivity is the only measure of value. Learning to rest well has meant learning to listen sooner, before fatigue becomes depletion. Some seasons require more effort. Others ask for recovery. The difficulty comes when we ignore those shifts and insist on sameness . I’m still learning how to rest without apology. How to stop without explaining. How to trust that pause is not falling behind. Rest, I’ve found, isn’t passive. It restores clarity .  It recalibrates energy .  It makes room for steadiness.  And like any skill, it deepens ...

If the year hasn’t unfolded as planned, that doesn’t mean it’s lost. A reset doesn’t require starting over — it simply requires recalibration. Sometimes that recalibration includes letting go. Goals set at the beginning of the year are made with the information we had at the time. As life unfolds, we learn more — about our capacity, our needs, and what no longer feels aligned. When a goal starts to feel forced or misfitted, it’s okay to release it. Letting go isn’t failure. It’s responsiveness. I’ve learned to allow the year to reveal itself, even when it looks different from what I imagined in January. Rather than clinging to an outdated plan, I try to listen for what feels supportive now. Pivoting isn’t giving up — it’s choosing to move with wisdom instead of resistance. For me, a gentle reset often begins with returning to basics: Eating regularly Sleeping consistently Moving in ways that support my body in it's current physical state Creating small pauses to bre...

The middle of the year offers a natural pause. Not a deadline — a moment to take stock. There is something honest about the middle. It isn’t charged with the hope of beginning or the urgency of ending. It simply reveals what has been sustained and what has quietly fallen away. Ecclesiastes 3: 1 reminds us, “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven".  Mid-year reflection helps me recognize the season I’m actually in, not the one I planned for months ago. I’ve learned to approach this pause gently. Instead of asking what I accomplished, I ask What supported balance? What habits felt grounding?  What quietly drained me? What do I need to release now instead of waiting and dragging it to the end of the year? This kind of reflection doesn’t require correction. It invites awareness. Growth rarely follows a straight line. Some practices deepen with time. Others fall away as life shifts. Ecclesiastes holds space for this truth, reminding us that change...

Making : Intentional action plans towards the life I want to live. These things don't happen by accident. Cooking : My entrepreneurial skillsets. These tech companies are re-defining the future of the workforce from role based to skill based. More now than ever, it is so important to have multiple streams of income. Drinking : Ice teas but hot coffees. Reading : 3 books once - An investigative thriller and 2 personal development books at the same time. Wanting: Equity over Equality . I hate that people cannot just do the right thing by default. That we have to riot, and protest and raise up our arms and basically stress our nervous systems to get them to do the right thing. And even then....They still don't do it, quite right. Looking: Forward to an amazing trip I have been working hard to gift myself Playing : On AWS Cloud QUEST - Talk about mixing fun and business Wasting : my time on people who do not deserve a second of it. Sewing : and fixing my favourite torn jean...

Boundaries are less about restriction and more about stewardship .  For a long time, I believed boundaries were a form of withholding — lines drawn out of fear of disappointing others  or as a means of punishment. With time and prayer, I’ve come to see them differently. Boundaries are an act of stewardship. What has been entrusted to me — my time, my talents, my attention — is not limitless. Caring for these gifts allows me to offer them with intention, not exhaustion; with love, not quiet resentment. Learning this required honesty. I had to listen to the moments when my spirit felt weary, when my body signaled strain, when I was giving beyond what was mine to give .  I began to notice patterns — the quiet habit of overextending , the unspoken belief that saying yes was the same as being faithful . But wisdom has a way of refining us.  I learned that boundaries do not require long explanations or external permission.  They ask only for internal truth and clari...

  Growth often requires release.  There comes a point when what once fit no longer does. Habits. Roles. Expectations. Even identities that once felt stabilizing can begin to feel constraining. Outgrowing these things can be uncomfortable. There’s often guilt attached — guilt for changing, for wanting something different, for no longer responding the same way. I’ve learned that growth doesn’t mean rejecting who I was. It means acknowledging that I’ve learned enough to move forward differently. Letting go is rarely dramatic. It often happens quietly — through choosing rest where I once chose endurance, through saying no where I once overextended, through trusting my discernment more than external approval. Outgrowing old versions of myself has required honesty and patience. But it has also brought relief. Growth, I’ve learned, doesn’t require an apology.

There’s a quiet reality that doesn’t get talked about enough.  Living as a single person is expensive.   One income carries everything. Rent. Groceries. Bills. Emergencies. There’s no one to split the cost, no second paycheck to create margin. What others share, as singles, we carry alone. Some call it the “ single tax .”  Recently, I watched a video by The Financial Diet titled “ What Nobody Tells You About Being the Single Friend .” It put words to something many of us feel but don’t always say out loud. The video highlights the hidden costs of being single. The way expenses stack up differently. The social expectations. The financial, emotional and mental weight that often goes unseen. And watching it, I realized how true it is. There are moments when the numbers don’t seem to stretch far enough. When the budget feels tight before the month even begins. When you find yourself quietly wondering how everything will come together.  This is where faith b...

Stress is unavoidable, but overwhelm doesn’t have to be constant.  I’ve learned that small, steady practices are far more effective than dramatic interventions.  These are a few simple ways I support my nervous system — practices that fit into real days, not ideal ones. Stress is part of life. What overwhelms us isn’t always the stress itself — it’s the lack of consistent or healthy ways to release it. I’ve learned that small, steady practices are far more effective than dramatic interventions. The following are simple tools I return to regularly — not because they’re impressive, but because they work. 1. Intentional pauses Short moments of stillness throughout the day help interrupt the buildup of tension before it compounds. 2. Gentle movement Walking, hiking, stretching, or light movement helps release stress stored in the body without demanding extra energy. 3. Engaging in Hobbies Engaging in an enjoyable activity shifts the focus from the stressor and offers a healthy d...

" The Selma to Montgomery march was part of a series of civil rights protests that occurred in 1965 in Alabama, a Southern state with deeply entrenched racist policies. In March of that year, in an effort to register Black voters in the South, protesters marching the 54-mile route from Selma to the state capital of Montgomery were confronted with deadly violence from local authorities and white vigilante groups. As the world watched, the protesters—under the protection of federalized National Guard troops—finally achieved their goal, walking around the clock for three days to reach Montgomery, Alabama. The historic march, and  Martin Luther King Jr. ’s participation in it, raised awareness of the difficulties faced by Black voters, and the need for a national Voting Right" Quote from : https://www.history.com/topics/black-history/selma-montgomery-march As someone who was born and raised in the motherland (Africa), there is such a huge disconnect about what our public educatio...

The "My Favorite Things" genre usually revolves around listing beloved products and subtly nudging readers towards purchasing them. But in our hyper-consumer world, do we really need more stuff? I'm taking a different approach. I want to share my favorite things to give – things that enrich lives without emptying wallets. Join me on a journey of decluttering and giving back! We're constantly bombarded with messages to buy, buy, buy. But what if we shifted our focus from consumption to contribution? What if, instead of accumulating more possessions, we focused on giving more of ourselves? This list isn't about what you can buy; it's about what you can give to make a real difference. 1. Time: The Most Precious Gift In a world obsessed with instant gratification, time is the ultimate luxury. Offer your time to a teenager or young adult as a mentor. Share your wisdom, experience, and guidance. You might be surprised at the impact you can have. Think about...

Let's go down memory lane to all the things I wanted to blog about in 2023 and just didn't because #YOLO 1. Going to see Usher in Las Vegas  2. Showing my friend who had never been to Vegas all the casinos. They all end up looking thesame. We went to Encore for their buffet. I highly reccomend it  3. Then we drove to Mexico 🇲🇽: Rocky point  4.  Attended a good friend's wedding  5. Reaquainted with my inner child at the Children's Museum for a silent disco party.  I love! Silent disco parties. You have to try it once if you have never been to one . 6. Visited Oklahoma city for the first time for a one of a kind special wedding  7.  I finally understood why the Diamond Backs are called the Diamond Back! I thought it was a reference the the Diamond 💎 as a jewelry or gemstone but instead it is a reference to the Arizona Diamond Back Rattle snake! (Enjoyed the game in a suite thank to my employer)  8. Participated in an event against sex traffi...